Before Josh and I were married we went to counseling with our pastor. (Sidebar: If you are engaged to be married I strongly suggest you do a counseling session prior to saying I do.) Back to story, about a week ago we were talking about the sessions and Josh said one thing he learned from the counseling that he didn’t know was he has to put his wife before everything after God. The order is God and then your spouse. What’s funny is I didn’t know I was supposed to put him first either.
When we were kid free newlyweds putting each other first was easy since it was just the two of us. Once we had children this became difficult. I struggled after the birth of my daughter with Postpartum Depression and finding balance between being her mommy and being a wife. I found myself consumed in all things Riley. I focused all my attention on this small human being who needed me. And in the time when I wasn’t doing that I was focused on my emotions that were all over the place. So much was going on at the time and I didn’t know how to handle it. I wanted to be the mother my newborn needed and ignored my role as the wife my husband needed. It’s so easy to get caught up in being super mom or super dad in some cases that you forget your spouse. It was during this time that I began to look to God more than ever. I prayed to be delivered from the depression, that He would show me how to be a wife and a mother. How to make sure I put my husband first before anyone and anything else.
We need to be able to take our problems to Him without being ashamed. To pray through our issues and know that God answers. I heard preachers say marriage isn’t rocky if it was built on THE ROCK. Let’s take a minute and let that sink in….. This was a trying time for us. Through it all Josh stood by my side, he prayed for me and reassured me when I needed it. During that time my personal relationship with God grew exponentially. I had to trust and believe that this test would be a testimony. Yes, we look to our husband to be the head of the household and guide us spiritually. However, you too must also have a personal relationship with God. In Isaiah 16:28 the Bible talks about the precious cornerstone for a sure foundation. Christ should be the solid rock you stand on and the rock you build your marriage foundation on. The Bible tells husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ glorified and loved his father God first and then loved the church. So as a husband he should love God first and then love you as his wife. (Ephesians 5:25)
God should always come first in your household, we will face different trials but as long as we keep Him first and seek Him, it will all work out. I pray that if you are married, you both have a relationship with God individually and collectively. Some things my husband and I do now to ensure we always put each other first is date night. Always remember to date your spouse, it may be one night a month or one night a week but plan to spend some alone time together. We also go to Bible study together every Tuesday night. Actually, we have been attending Bible study together before we were even dating.
What are some ways you spend time with your spouse?